When doing therapy within a system, such as a family or a couple, the focus is not on any one individual but rather on the family or the couple, as a whole. An individual may act quite differently depending on the situation and relationships in which one lands. Therefore, finding fault or wanting to change one member of the system holds little value. Instead, my work with families and couples involves understanding how the members of the system come together in order to functioning.  What are the roles and emotions that each member adopts in order to keep the family/couple going? And in what way can all members of the family/couple shift in order to find greater satisfaction and support in those relationships? What this may look like for a specific family or couple can vary greatly, but the willingness to even consider such questions sets a promising tone for the work.